“Take the lead! Make sure you’re in charge of your life”, he told her.
Hi did make some good points, including this one.
But this advice was uttered during a(n at least) half-hour long conversation, or rather, lecture, in which he repeatedly told her what she’s “doing all the time”, what she should and should not do, as well as how she should or should not feel or behave.
All in the name of helping her.